Does being a resilient person require denial? Amy has two raging ear infections...am I tough and resilient if it's "not that bad", or should I be honest and confess that I wonder if the stress of a sick baby, working nights and blending a family make me question my faith in the future?
My son didn't get invited to a good friend's birthday festivities. I found out through Facebook...that stings. If I'm resilient, do I say "oh, I'm sure it was an oversight, maybe thrown together...and all the kids couldn't be invited", or should I be honest and confess that my son thinks this kid is his best friend, and when push comes to shove it seems like this kid just doesn't like my son. When I think that, am I being too easily offended, not resilient?
I've always felt that being charitable means giving people the benefit of the doubt. But at what point do you just call a spade a spade and move on?
Something comforting that doesn't involve self talk: Hardship makes people stronger. Dustin and I recently snuggled down in bed and watched a fantastic devotional on his itouch. John Huntsman spoke at a BYU devotional in November 2009. I would recommend listening when you get the chance. When I think of his saying: we shouldn't wish for our children to feel no pain, we should remember that pain precedes growth...it rings so mind blowingly true.
I want to be resilient and forgiving...I also want to be honest. Can I be both?
Oh, and at what point am I being a brat? I feel pain over my kids hardships...but they're healthy and well taken care of and live in a free country without terrorism. They are so blessed!! SOOO, why do I still agonize for them?
My son doesn't even know about the festivities gone by, should I even stress about this? My daughter is now on Amoxicillin, and tonight is my last night to work for a week....perhaps things will take a turn for the better? SUCH IS LIFE!!
